Years ago, my family was hurt by an individual who represented an organization that meant a lot to us. Deciding to choose our battles, we kept quiet and moved on, doing what was best for our family. Seeing this person on New Year's Eve at a local resturaunt while we were having lunch brought up a conversation that I have put a lot of thought into. Only speaking with a few select people in detail regarding the situation, it was brought to my attention that this person has been speaking very openly regarding what happened, sharing their one side of what happened. My husband mentioned that somebody at his work told him that we need to stop being bitter and move on with our lives, given the amount of time that has passed. That statement shocked me because I never considered myself bitter and even more shocking was how this person knew so much about what happened... hmm.
I looked up the definition of bitter and considered the situation; I do not harbor any hostility or hatred towards this person or the situation. I am a firm believer to learn from your past and apply what you learn to your daily lifestyle. I would consider myself cautious, not bitter- a big difference.
I do not wish this person or any of their family any ill will, in all honesty, I hope the best for all of them. I believe that we need to use the wisdom that God has given us to make good decisions and to be cautious with who we interact with on a daily basis. Just because I will not invite this person over for dinner or scrapbook together does not make me bitter, it makes me cautious and shows good judgement, in my opinion.
My family has moved on and found a new normal. I can honestly say that we have never been happier as a family. John and I are getting along better than we ever have in all of our years of marriage. Both of the kids are growing and healthy with personalities that I could write a book about. Things are really really good and why this has resurfaced after all of these years, I don't know.
I guess my moving on has some perceived as bitterness. If you have that much time on your hands to think about my "bitterness", then have at it. While you're doing that, I will be enjoying my family, thinking of a great word to play on Words with Friends, cooking Buffalo Chicken Tacos, folding laundry, drinking coffee, and reading a good book.
I choose greatness in 2013 and I hope that if there is a situation in your life that you need to move on from, pack up and move- today! As I say to my kids, "Use that thing in your head between your ears!"